Whether you’re a believer or not, research is clear about the importance of date nights, especially for parents. According to a recent study published by the Gottman Institute (which has become the basis for the book Eight Dates), “couples who go on a weekly date have better relationships”. Period.
Yes, it’s easy to get busy and overwhelmed as a parent, making it feel impossible to even sneak away from your responsibilities for a minute, let alone an entire evening. But that’s where the logic begins to break: Taking care of your relationship is a parenting responsibility, albeit one that is regularly overlooked by stressed-out, overwhelmed parents.
Your kids are, of course, wonderful. And, yes, they deserve your attention, love, and affection. They are, however, no excuse to neglect your marriage or your relationship with your partner. After all, that significant other is just as important!
Making time for date night (or date morning or afternoon) is an investment in your relationship. And, when your relationship succeeds, you actually improve your ability to parent. No matter how much you think “you’ve got this” in your relationship, the truth is that if you’re not making regular commitments to each other, then you are neglecting it.
By ensuring that you get out regularly on a one-on-one date, you’ll quickly start to see the benefits - both in your relationship and in your parenting.
Three of the biggest benefits of enjoying regular date time as parents are…
The most important part of regular dating for parents is that it strengthens their relationship, creating a better foundation for parenting - one that allows kids to thrive. Toss your excuses and reservations to the side and start planning!